What do you do when you're not seeing the results you so badly want?
Do you push harder, switch approaches, sabotage yourself, or even become frustrated and quit?
When crafting an approach to losing weight or setting goals, most of us start out with the best of intentions. We want to gather information and have the most solid, most effective game plan. A plan that moves us consistently forward and a plan that also prevents all failure.
Soon, however many find themselves starting to consistently overeat, go off plan, or not follow through with their target action steps.
This happens when things are actually going well (weight loss is evident on the scale or we are making progress on a goal), and also we see this happen when things are not going as we want, or when the scale is stuck in a range not budging or going up.
How ironic is it that in BOTH scenarios we end up just giving up, or even worse, quiet quitting. 😔
You may tell yourself you have no idea why you continuously sabotage yourself, but having been there myself, I can tell you why….
The answer to why we get in our own way both when we are crushing it, and when we are not, is in our mindset. When things are going great we may have thoughts like, “I can’t keep this up”, “This is too easy and surely I will fail soon”, “I can’t believe I’m doing so well, this must be a fluke”, and “I’ve been working so hard, I need a break.”
Conversely, when we are not losing weight consistently, or are stuck we may think, “I will never get this right”, “This works for everyone else but me”, "I could never do this before, what makes me think I can do it now”, or “I’m bad at weight loss.”
Is there another way? Obviously what I have described above is what you may be used to doing as second nature (you may not even notice you have those thoughts) and a sure way to keep you stuck.
If you want different results, you have to try something different, agree?
Let's do it!
If you want to make a change, consider doing what you can every single day without concerning yourself if it’s THE best. Consider reminding yourself that what you ARE doing is something, and staying consistent is worth more in the long run than staying on track all the time.
This can apply to anything you are trying to achieve, not just weight loss. It can apply to parenting, building a business, a current job, or any goal you may be working toward.
I’m sure none of us wake up in the morning with the intention to be the worst at something and give up. We all want to do better and be better.
So maybe give yourself a chance to do just that. Don’t defeat yourself before you take the first few steps. You need to crawl before you learn how to walk and walk before you can run. If you want to build the emotional resilience muscles needed to reach your goals, you have put in the repetitions.
You need to show up for yourself every day and when you can’t one day, you pick it back up as soon as you are able.
Try to avoid obsessing over everything that you don’t do well yet. Just observe and see if what you’re doing is moving you toward or away from your goal. If it's not moving you toward the goal, analyze, make adjustments and keep going.
Stay curious. Stay patient. Be on your own team.
IF you can stay focused knowing you can do anything without judging yourself every step of the way, you will be able to objectively make adjustments and realize your goals.
What are the thoughts that get in your way? Are you aware of them? And if you are have you been successful in overcoming this in your life?
I'd love to hear about your story, so please email me and share yours!
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Sending you all love this Valentine's week ❤️,
Coach Penny
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